Monday, June 8, 2009

The death of a brother



Our Son, brother, grandson, uncle, cousin and best friend Cory Scott Parry passed away Saturday, May 30, 2009. Cory was born January 30, 1980, in Brigham City, Utah, to Kim and Cindy (Scott) Parry. Cory led the path for his brothers and sisters as the oldest sibling and first born son. He had continual gratitude for all things, and an unquenchable thirst for knowledge. His brilliant intellect allowed him to learn and accomplish most anything he desired. He was a teacher to many, including a primary and gospel doctrine teacher for the LDS Church. He was an Eagle Scout and an LDS missionary. His unwavering faith and testimony strengthened many. He was gifted in lifting the sorrow of the heavy hearted and made others feel important. Because of that, many considered him their friend. He was blessed with a keen intelligence and pure understanding of the eternal plan. Cory’s happiest moments were spent with his family and friends, especially his little brother and best bud Cameron. Cory, as you go forward and begin your heavenly mission, we will continue our journey here with faith, knowing that our family link will never be broken. Cory is survived by his parents, Kim and Cindy Parry, his siblings, Trisha (Josh), Shawn (Katie), Lacie and Cameron, Nephew Tyrus, and nieces Kamdynn and Bentlee, as well as his grandparents, Dave and Ruby Scott-Fielding, Ralph and Diane Hechtle- Brigham City, and Tom and Nancy Parry- Salt Lake City. He was preceded in death by his Uncle, Scott Parry, and cousins Skip and Joshua Scott.

Those of you that know my family and I are aware of the passing of my big brother Cory. I will say that this is the hardest thing that my family has ever been through, but it is also the most spiritual thing that I have ever experienced. I will forever be changed because of this. I feel an overwhelming feeling of peace when ever I think of that day. I know that this is Cory's time to do the Lord's work...he will be an awesome missionary! We are receiving extra strength right now as we try to sort through all of our emotions. The love of Family and Friends has been poured upon us and we will be forever grateful. Though it's so hard to know that we won't be able to physically see Cory, we are blessed to know that he is overjoyed to be in a better place waiting for us.

My kids have handled all of this pretty well. There is a lot of work to do when someone you love passes away. Because of this they had been pretty uprooted from the day of his death to the day of his funeral. The crisis worker at the hospital told me that 3 year olds don't really understand death or experience grief, while 6 year olds are just barely starting to understand that death isn't a temporary situation. My sweet little Ty had a hard time at the funeral. Saying goodbye to (the physical) uncle Cory was hard on his little mind. He cried during the whole funeral. I have always wanted to protect my kids from experiencing death because I looked at it as such a sad thing. And I don't see it that way anymore. Yes, it is the hardest thing in the world to experience grief for a loved one, but the spirit has spoken to my so strong I feel blessed to have experienced it. This is definately the toughest of tests, but my testimony has been strengthened ten fold. Through all of this I have found strength in listening to spiritual music. If you enjoy this too, check out music by Rachelle Call @ rachellecall.com, and music by Jondene Berts (I can't find a link to her music, but contact my if you are interested in a CD). Thank you all for your love and support. It means more to my than you will ever know.

8 comments:

  1. Trisha is the song But if not from Jondene Berts? My mom did not get to hear that song she had to step out during the funeral and she really wanted to hear it. My dad was telling her how beautiful it was. If so how can we get a CD?
    Brandi

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  2. Summer made Ty a card that we still need to bring over. She was very concerned for Ty losing his Uncle. I am glad you are finding some blessings in such a hard time. We love you guys!!!

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  3. It was a beautiful viewing. Your family is amazing! I love your mom and dad. Your dad is to good to my husband we absolutly love him.

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  4. Trisha, so sorry to hear about your brother. My heart goes out to you.

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  5. I am so sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing your sweet testimony - you are such a great example. If I can do anything let me know.

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  6. So sorry for your family's loss! I glad Heavenly Father is blessing you with lots of strength at this time - you are a great mom and example to me. If you need anything I'm just down the street.

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  7. WE all felt the same way when my brother died. It is so hard having to say goodbye but it brings hope and joy to the lufe after this one.

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  8. Still have you guys in our prayers. I will never forget how strong the spirit was at his funeral. You are an amazing sister, daughter, and mom Trish. I look up to you a lot.

    thanks for sharing this super fun blog. it makes me smile!

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